Black women white men dating comes with a whole bunch of challenges. One of the biggest challenges arises when both people in the relationship are very attached and involved in their respective cultures.
In cases where one partner doesn’t care as much about their own culture, this doesn’t really become a problem. They are more than happy to accommodate a new culture and even raise their kids with that culture’s values.
But what happens when both people want their culture to be the priority? It can make an otherwise perfect relationship become unbalanced in a heartbeat. Here are four tips that both people in an interracial relationship should follow.
1.Don’t see one culture as ‘better’ than another
This can lead to a lot of resentment down the line. If one person is constantly making snide remarks about how backwards their partner’s culture is, there’s no happy ending involved for anybody in the relationship.
Don’t insult your partner’s culture and don’t compare your cultures. It will only lead to fights and literally does not have any productive results. You won’t convince them to like your culture more, you will just make them get defensive.
2.Don’t force your ideals on your partner or your children
While it’s perfectly fine to live your own life by the ideals of your culture, they should not be forced on anyone else. Let’s say, for example, that your culture forbids you from eating pork. Everybody should respect your decision not to eat pork, but this goes both ways. You can’t get upset and be mean about it if your partner or your kids decide to order a pizza with bacon on it.
Accept that it’s their choice and stick to your ideals without foisting it on others. In truth, they’re less likely to adopt your way of living if you’re aggressive about it. They will be more open to it when you allow them to decide for themselves.
3.Find parts of your partner’s culture that you identify with and appreciate
A lot of cultures share commonality. A white person from the South in America has very strong family values, but so does an African person from Uganda.
Finding the common ground in your culture will help you to cohabitate and raise children together, with a lot less fighting and drama.
4.Remember that you love your partner for who they are, and their culture is a part of that
A person’s culture, upbringing, and family heavily influence who they become later in life. If you fell in love with your African partner because they are always full of laughs and joy, it’s thanks to their culture. If you fell in love with an Asian man because of his stoic nature and serious work ethic, it’s because of his culture.
Recognize that by falling in love with your partner, you have also fallen in love with their culture to a certain extent. Just like they fell in love with yours.
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